Every relationship we engage in leaves a connection or imprint on our heart…
When we are physically unwell, we take an action to help our bodies release the toxins that are making us sick. If our business is losing money, we cut expenses or strengthen our marketing strategy. If we have running negative thoughts about life, we do what we can to affirm a new thought pattern — but how many times in your life have you done a heart cleanse? Your heart is the central organ that carries the emotional weight of all your hopes and dreams, beliefs, and ideals. Every relationship you’ve engaged in — business or personal — resides there over a lifetime even many that have all but ended or no longer serve you. Now is the time to reboot your heart and create space for all the new opportunities coming your way.
You’ve probably heard someone say, “You know who’s going through something right now? Literally, everyone.” No matter how you do business, online or in a brick-and-mortar location, each customer, employee, or acquaintance you will happen upon, is struggling with new experiences, financial insecurity, physical instability, a shift in beliefs, emotional overload…or all of the above. The pandemic has created a unique set of dynamics all hitting critical mass at the same time, so how can you sustain your equilibrium, or get it back during such a momentous time, while still taking care of your business?
As the year ends, it is a natural response for our biorhythms to point us towards some self- reflection on our year, our business, our health, and our connections. However, if you’re like me, instead of giving time to that internal inventory, we get swept up in the hustle and bustle of the holidays and all the work that entails. It’s easy to do a physical purification or change a habit, but how do we clear our hearts of outdated beliefs, information, or relationships that no longer are in balance with who we are and what we’re doing?
At the end of the day, our lives are made up of the perceived relationships we have accumulated over time. How we feel about people and how we think they feel about us. It is not just our bonds with others that weigh us down, it’s our connections to the work we do, the environments we live in, the conditions we live with inside and out, the news we watch, the food we eat, and the body we nurture. Experiences we have long forgotten about may still be energetically expressed in the way we treat ourselves or others.
Any relationship we choose to harbor must be a reciprocal one — a give and take that maintains balance and sustains us on some level, in some way, and that inspires us to make contributions that support others. This is the powerful human entitlement that our deepest self intends. It’s amazing, the transformation that comes from a slight shift in any direction, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically. So, in the spirit of renewal and restoration, I offer a simple ritual for you to do at a time and place of your choosing. Of course, I proffer nothing that I don’t use myself and let me tell you, this one was a profound experience.
The time I choose is just before bed or upon waking. This exercise only requires a fairly relaxed state of being and the free flow of pictures, thoughts, and feelings — although, it is just as effective when you are doing mindless work or menial tasks. It is an energetic cord-cutting ritual to help you visually recognize the energy and connections you carry in your heart, and in your body in general.
I started with my focus on relationships with people I found I harbored in my heart, but quickly moved to thoughts, beliefs, and old news stories I’d been giving refuge, in my stomach, arms, and legs. It’s amazing the way our consciousness witnesses everything, and we hold onto what we resonate with or may need for future use. However, our cognizant mind only recognizes a small portion of that information, and when we’ve changed our feelings or minds about certain things, we may not take the opportunity to deliberately release the outdated fodder.
The Cord-Cutting Ritual
Take a few deep breaths to bring yourself into a moderate state of relaxation, and ask yourself, “Whose energy am I carrying in my heart?”, and let the fun begin. As names or faces come to mind, visualize a gentle stream of energy between you and them and see yourself clip it with a pair of scissors. Now, take notice of the place in your body where it is connected (it may not be your heart) and let the “root-ball” of energy fall to the ground, now continue-on where your heart and mind lead you — to the next person place or thing that comes to mind. It’s like a spiritual haircut, now rinse and repeat. (You’re not removing people permanently from your spirit, just gaining some perspective.)
You can continue this ritual for as much time as you have or during your daily chores, until you feel sufficiently, rebooted. While the ritual is simple, its effects are not. Often, we are carrying energy from deep in our past and it may bring up grief or sorrow. When that’s the case, let the tears gently flow till they run out. In grief, the resistance we experience to expressing the tears is the difficulty, not the emotion itself. Gentleness is the key, allowing feelings to float to the surface—to rise and fall in equilibrium. This is the practice of mindfulness, and as you get used to the rhythm, it can be as joyful and cathartic as a walk.
Don’t be surprised in the process, the things that come to mind. We have a lot of space to carry what we value like our relationship to politics, news stories that touched our hearts, deep losses and minor transitions, friendships that dwindled or ended abruptly, or our relationship with food or consumerism. All these elements of daily life must be offered the opportunity to transition in our perspective and focus when we no longer need them to achieve balance.
The final phase in your reboot is gratitude. Now that you’ve allowed all that no longer serves you to fall away, visualize in your mind sweeping all that energy into a hole in the Earth so that it can become useable energy for the planet. Take moments to offer reverence to the many ways that this energy or those people have served you and give thanks by drawing downlight from the ethers into the places in your mind, body, and spirit where you once held them. Send to all that you are releasing this light as well.
As a final thought, doing this ritual often can really allow you to process on all levels — where you’ve been, who you are — and create space for all you’d like to accomplish and become. It will upgrade your level of ease and let you know where important changes are to be made. It only takes one small clip to change the future.